I loved this week’s GOOP. It was on long term relationships, how to keep the love after the honeymoon. Beau and I have only been married for 6 years, but I can assure you a lot has happened in the idea of richer or poorer, sickness and health, joy and sorrow…fatter or thinner! Here we are on our honeymoon in Thailand:Those two kids had all the world as their oyster! We were such different people then. Still the same in a lot of ways…only a tiny bit wiser. What oh what will the next six bring?
After we were married about a year I told Beau I read a statistic that if you can make it to two years you have a good chance of making it long term. He said, “I think we’re going to make it.” I said, “for forever!!?” and he said, “to two years.”
I still love him.
Here’s a couple excerpts from GOOP I especially loved:
“Love bears all things…” But this does not mean a dreary sort of “putting up with” or victimization. There are two meanings of the word bear, and they both apply. The first means “to hold up, to sustain” – like a bearing wall, which carries the weight of the house. Love “holds up and sustains.” You might say this is its masculine meaning. Its feminine meaning is this: to bear means “to give birth, to be fruitful.” So love is that which in any situation is the most life-giving and fruitful. ~Cynthia Bourgeault
“Love one another, but make not a bond of love: Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls. Fill each other’s cup, but drink not from one cup. Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf. Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone, Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music. Give your hearts, but not into each other’s keeping; For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts. And stand together yet not too near together; For the pillars of the temple stand apart, And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other’s shadow.” ~Kahlil Gibran